Explore Life From a Position of Power

Credits to James Clear.

When you believe, “Even if I stay single, I’ll still have a great life” … then you are in a much better position to enter a relationship.

When you believe, “Even if I don’t get into this school, I’ll still have a great life” … then you are in a much better position to apply.

When you believe, “Even if I don’t succeed with this business, I’ll still have a great life” … then you are in a much better position to give it a try.

There’s a Goldilocks principle to desire: you need to want it, but not too much:

If you lack the desire you’ll simply lose motivation.

But if you have too much desire you become your own obstacle. You become filled with negative emotions like stress, anxiety, and fear. These emotions not only become emotionally draining but they also inhibit your performance when given the opportunities as well. Rather, we are at our best when we perform like we have nothing to lose.